SOLVING SAFETY PROBLEMS

BASIC STEPS IN THE PROBLEM SOLVING PROCESS

Five steps involved to ensure a successful outcome but I will pick one.... the 5th one.

Implement the Solution.

According to William Bridges, Managing Transition. There are three phases of transition all employees must complete before successful change can occur.

PHASE ONE: Letting go. Ending the old order. Unfreeze old behavior. Acceptance

PHASE TWO: Adapting. Searching for new identity. Limbo. Neutral zone. Learning New

PHASE THREE:  Grabbing hold. A new beginning. Refreeze new behavior. Acceptance



Wow I like this. This can also apply to daily life

Three weeks down the line

Lord, how do I handle myself through these tough times? She still remain the best thing that ever happened to me. I can't afford to let her off my mind. What and where did I go wrong? Can't stop thinking of her, can't even imagine to live without her thought. The more I tell myself to move on, the more pain my heart generates and make me feel weak. It's a disease that only her can cure. I am not the same anymore. Nothing seem to make sense in my life. What did I do wrong? No food is even appetizing to me. What should I do to really show how much I loved, love and will always love this person? God help me am so weak.

I hope you Understand

Dear Tau,

I thought I may not have enough time to speak with you. Though paper is more patient than man, but please listen to this.

I don’t want to fight with any of the people who have been coming to tell you stories because of so many reasons but am sad because they will eventually make you abandon me and join their side giving them what they were looking for when all these issues started stirring up. I will be very sad to quit at this stage because I have never been this honest with a woman. I think you have made me be the man I am supposed to be because you inspired me to greater heights that’s why I love you with every bit of my life. And to this, I will always do even if you still exist or not.

Let me be realistic with you that I don’t hold any grudge whatsoever against your sister. I beg to be forgiven if possible. Those that feed her with the wrong information and how they provided it, are my main cause of prayer for all the atrocities and torture afflicted on me. Wanting to advance their self interests on you. Remember how you warned me about him (JM) you told me mwachimvekele Tau kuti he could get on to me even I least expect him. See what is happening? Who knows he has not fed your sister with too much info about me? He claims to have heard so much about me from people he did not mention.

I have been thinking a lot since all these things started brewing up.  I have lived an honest life Tau. I never lied or made it a secret to you about the situation of my life and we have always strived for the truth in our relationship. With or without you, my issues were still going to be sorted out. If this is all about sorting out my stuff. things are gonna get better and all issues people are talking about will be sorted out not because of you but because they were bound to be sorted out anyway. In every good relationship, there is stuff that comes in to distract your attention from the love. Any genuine love will be tasted and the stronger/deeper the love is, the stronger the temptation or distraction is gonna be. Be strong bae, please be strong if not for me then for love.

                                                                                                                                                        

I find it very unfair to be going through this not because we (you and me) have wronged each other, but because people have come in to make sure that we part ways. Are you sure we should get punished for peoples talk? The reason why this is disturbing us both is because we are both in love with each other. But be very careful with society though. Sometimes it can force us make decisions not because we wanted to but because we want to buy our peace/freedom.

When trust is lost in a relationship, then all is lost. I still have trust and belief in you kuti you are going to judge and understand me from the simple truth and openness I have been to you. I don’t know who to trust now apart from you. You are the only person who I strongly believe I should give my trust because in all this, you have not let me down not a single time. I might have my mistakes in life, but I beg not to be condemned and thrown to the Lions. I ought to be understood and corrected. Let us be together.

I will be going into hibernation and total low profile with my 100% love for you, just to pave enough space for you to make hefty progress in healing from all this. I will leave it to you that when you feel like talking to me again, you can call me. I will bear the pain Tau, I will bear the pain.

You will remain my love of all time.

Sent: Friday 22 February 2013 

Friday 22 February

Friday 22 February......... 06:52:34 pm

The text came along....... She has let it loose, She has dropped the rope. She can't hold on to it again... She was my only strength but this means that its over.... 

It this true? i wiped my eyes just to make sure I have a good site and read properly what was written. "Davie I know this is hard but I feel this relationship has no future there is just too much opposition that I can't bear any more. Forgive me, but I have no option" Does this mention of ending the relationship or she is just under so much pressure that she just need space? Come on Davie read the writing on the wall. She is quitting only that she can't tell you in a direct way. Maybe she is afraid of what you would do if she is abit harsh in telling you this.... My brain raced and couldn't sleep all night. Trying to think if this was real. Comparing to the sweet moments and times we had and the damage we have had to the relationship, I failed to convince myself that she could be ending the relationship. But another thought though of the shame, embarrassment, psychological trauma of the insults and ridicule she has received at the expense of trying to save this relationship. I felt for her. I understood even how more confused she was before sending me that. How confused at the thought of letting me go just like that. She could be feeling like persecuting someone who is so innocent such that doesn't deserve the punishment. She is human I know and she has not forgotten how rosy and sweet this affair was. I UNDERSTAND YOU GAL. 

Words are failing me now. Can't write more than this for I am very devastated .... I still feel so much love for this girl even though she has told me this..... Three days since she broke the news, I still feel great and much love for her. I don't have reason enough to blame her or live by her negatives in the way she has handled it all.

She still remain the best woman ever

Quotes

Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be.  But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.

In life you’ll realize there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
 
Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy.  If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.

Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off.  It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.

The most beautiful thing is to see a person you love smiling.  And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it.

The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.

If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down.  Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.

When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority.  Loyalty is everything.

When the pain of holding on is worse than the pain of letting go, it is time to let go.

True love isn’t about being inseparable; it’s about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.

When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back.  It’s one of the most precious gifts you can receive.  Don’t waste it.
Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; they’re also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.

Hanging on to a thin thread.... Praying that I don't lose my love.

It really isn't stopping to rain and pouring .... Looks like there are alot of people still talking about me. Some even getting manipulated in the process.

Lord ndathedwa nzeru please be my judge and help me out of this mess. Will always exalt your name and honor you.

A phone call that saved my life

Each time I hear of someone committing suicide for any reason, my mind always rushed to condemning them and label the person as weak minded, in human and/or even someone who has no brains at all.

On that Saturday 16^th February, there was no option left for me on the table but consider suicide as the only brave way a broken heart could find solace in.

Reported for duty that morning, with so much grief and pain that conquered my heart. Trying to concentrate on the job, my head kept on skipping the main purpose why I was at the office?  Most of my time was occupied with all sorts of sweet evil thoughts. Thought of resigning from my work but what I was going to do after that, sent shivers of fear to my brain.

Just at the thought of losing her, my mind got whispers so loud such that even how tight I closed my ears with my palms, I could still hear them. How could life be without her? NO - this can't be .... with tears rolling my cheeks.

Knocked off at 12:45 pm. All this time, I had someone speaking to me. I call him - the Unseen and Silent companion. He kept on firing questions at me. And the more this happened, the more confused I was. Finally, he convinced me to go via the Blantyre market as I was heading home. I branched off to the market, went past the benches without spotting what exactly I wanted to get from there. From far, I saw a bench selling exactly what I was looking for -  The Tamek - With a faint voice, I asked the seller how much they were fetching, K30, K50, K100 and K300. The hundred Kwacha one will do, I thought to myself. Bought one and headed home.

Went strait to the bedroom and laid in bed. So weak and confused I started thinking of how to take it. Got it out of my pocket, looked at it and then put it on the bed. Knelt beside my bed and prayed to God for forgivenes. One thing was not done, I remembered I had not written a note. Not wanting to put in trouble the young boy that I am staying with. Went to the sitting room to fetch for a piece of paper to scribble something. 

Sat down on the carpet so weak and very sick inside, I was going to do this one thing just because of love. It is love that has made me go through this, it is love that has made me lose weight on just few days. It was my own love that made me think evil and feel crushed inside.

Phone rings - fish it out of my pocket, who is calling me at this time? Tau... as the number registered.... "Bho bho, mulipo? Just wanted to say hie am getting back in church..... Pweeeeeuuuuuu!! It was this phone call that changed my thinking. ".....What if she still cares so much that she still want to have me? What if she also breaks so much after I do this? Why did she call at this time?" That phone call, saved my life. My mind changed and started thinking positively. 

Thanks for calling me on that second. Eish Lord have mercy on me. God know knows how much I love this girl.